By us, for us · founding cohort: Oxford

Queer connection,
on our terms.

We've all been worn down by apps that were never really for us. Seloa's ours — for dating, friendship, whatever you're looking for. Show up as yourself and breathe a bit.

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iris, 29

they/them · landscape architect

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Curious who else on here is making it up as they go. No agenda, just checking it’s not just me.

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Botley · since June

Anyone going to the thing at the pub on Friday? I need at least one person I know there so I have someone to make eye contact with when the conversation dies.

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Headington · since June

Looking for someone who actually goes outside. Not "yeah I love hiking" followed by three months of not hiking.

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Iffley · since June

CW: vent / heavy day — does anyone know a good queer-friendly GP near Cowley?

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Why we made it (and what we won't do)

These aren't extras. They're what “built for us” actually looks like.

Ask first, every time

No one drops an image in your chat uninvited. Senders ask; you grant or decline. A decline starts a cooldown, so they can't just keep asking. Not a setting you switch on. It's how the app works. Full stop.

Not a numbers game

You came here to meet someone, not to rack up likes. So there's no infinite deck, no slot machine, nothing nudging you to keep swiping. Every screen is built to slow that down.

Safe because we've needed it

We know what it can cost to be outed. So privacy isn't a switch you have to find. It's built in from day one. Identity data encrypted, screenshots blocked, your real name never shown.

Be decent, rise

How you treat people shapes where you show up. There's no public score, no callout. Just a quiet system that keeps the room kind and makes the good-faith people easier to find.

Reply before you collect

Hold three open matches at a time; past that, the deck pauses until you write back. Hoarding likes was never the same thing as dating.

Every identity, centred

Trans, non-binary, ace, pan, demi, fluid, neurodivergent: your own words for yourself sit at the centre of how matching works — right up front, not something you have to dig for.

By us, for us. Full stop.

Built by queer people, not a diversity tab on a straight app. Every decision starts with one question: does this actually serve our community?

Wear your colours. Or don't.

Your profile, in your colours.

Pick a flag and it tints your profile. Yours only, never the whole app. Trans, non-binary, bi, lesbian, ace, pan, or nothing at all. The app stays calm; you get to be loud. Your call, every time.

Pick yours to see it live →

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alex, 31

they/them · non-binary · sound designer

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Makes field recordings of quiet places. Will absolutely tell you about microphones. Soft hands, loud opinions on reverb.

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Optional. The app stays calm. These colours only ever touch your profile. Wear them loud or leave them off.

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Community. Local. Fleeting.

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A quieter, text-first way to find people nearby, for whatever you're actually looking for. Posts are short, public to your area, and they expire.

Seven intents

Casual, Dates, Friends, Events, Questions, Mutual Aid, Missed.

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React or reply

React quietly, or start a conversation. Your call.

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Posts close on their own schedule. No permanent trace.

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"On the towpath most evenings this week. Looking for someone to argue about music for an hour or just exist near a canal."

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Low-key hangouts. No agenda required.

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What's said here, stays here

No screenshots. No outing. Yours.

Chats can't be captured, your identity data is encrypted, and your legal name is never shown to anyone. For a lot of us, privacy was never optional. We built it in from the start, not as a switch you have to go looking for.

How we keep each other safe →

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blake

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Hiking mainly. I work in landscape design so it's basically professional research8:43 PM

That's such a good job justification. “I have to be outside, it's my career” 8:48 PM

Exactly. How did the music actually start for you?8:53 PM

Started on guitar as a kid, picked up piano later. Now I write things and rarely finish them9:03 PM

I want to hear one of the unfinished ones9:08 PM

Maybe when I've finished one I'll use it as leverage to share the bad ones first9:13 PM

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Since you're wondering

The things people ask first.

About Seloa

Why is it called Seloa?

It carries a quiet phonetic echo of 'slower'. The whole app is built to slow you down — fewer profiles, real conversations, no race to the next swipe.

What is Seloa, and how is it different?

Who is Seloa for?

Is Seloa only for serious relationships?

Waitlist & launch

Why join the waitlist?

Early members shape the app and become founding members: a permanent profile badge and free access for life.

When will Seloa launch, and is it in my area?

Will Seloa cost money?

Safety & privacy

What data do you collect?

The minimum to match you well. Identity data is encrypted at rest, your real name is never shown, and your data is yours to delete any time.

Will Seloa have safety features?

Is Seloa trans and non-binary inclusive?

How do I leave the waitlist or delete my data?

This is personal

I got tired of waiting.

I kept waiting for a queer app that was actually for us — for dating, for friendship, for finding your people. It never came, so I'm making it. On my own, as part of this community, on these principles:

Connection over collection. One conversation that actually goes somewhere beats fifty matches you never message.

Consent is the ground, not a setting. Nobody gets your attention, your images, or your time without asking first.

Safety is a right, not an upsell. I will never put the thing that protects you behind a paywall. That's not a principle I'm willing to trade.

Everyone gets to be specific. Your identity is the starting point, not a footnote. There's no 'other' box here.

I answer to you, not investors. There's no board, no VC round. Just me, building something I actually want to exist.

JeromeFounder, Seloa

You were here first.

The first people in keep a permanent founding badge and free access for life. Oxford-only to start. You'll get one message when we release.

Queer connection,on our terms.

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✦ It's a match. ✦

✦ It's a match. ✦

These aren't extras. They're what “built for us” actually looks like.

Ask first, every time

Not a numbers game

Safe because we've needed it

Be decent, rise

Reply before you collect

Every identity, centred

By us, for us. Full stop.

Your profile, in your colours.

Signals

No screenshots. No outing. Yours.

No image drops in uninvited. Ever.

The things people ask first.

I got tired of waiting.

You were here first.

Queer connection,
on our terms.